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How to read this level. Siman 195 deals with the הרחקות — the separations a husband and wife observe during niddah. The Mehaber's fundamental rule: so long as she has not counted her seven clean days and immersed (טבול), the husband must separate (לפרוש) from her ; and even if she long tarried without immersing, she remains נדה until tevilah. The siman has seventeen seifim (י״ז סעיפים), which may be grouped into six families: (1) the principle and touch (נגיעה) — not touching even with the little finger, not handing or receiving an object, even by throwing ; (2) the table and drink — a היכר between the bowls, not finishing her cup ; (3) the bed — not sitting on her bed, not sleeping together ; (4) the gaze, designated garments and adornment ; (5) the forbidden "services of affection" — pouring his cup, making his bed in his presence, pouring his washing water ; (6) the two periods (נדה and ליבון) and the exceptions of illness. This level has two parts. (1) Daat HaRav — the shitah of Chabad: there is here a genuine Chabad halachic tradition, whose authority of reference in Niddah is the Tzemach Tzedek of Lubavitch (for Chabad, the "Tzemach Tzedek" always designates that Rebbe). (2) Halacha lema'asse: the general psak (Beit Yosef, Rama, Shach, Taz, Sidrei Tahara, Chochmat Adam, Aruch haShulchan) and the contemporary pesak (Taharat haBayit, Shevet haLevi, Badei haShulchan). We cite only real and attested positions ; where a specific Chabad psak or minhag is not established with certainty, we note it at the level of principle — without ever inventing a responsum, a number or a minhag. The practical consequence is clear: the הרחקות are concrete rules of everyday life, fine and many ; therefore every conclusion (lema'asse) ends by referring you to your Rav or to a moret kalla — one learns these dinim from a person ; one does not simply deduce them alone.

Note on method (important). This part presents the halachic approach of Chabad to Niddah and, here, to the הרחקות. Unlike kashrut, here there is a genuine Chabad tradition of psak, whose authority of reference in Niddah is the Tzemach Tzedek of Lubavitch (for Chabad, "Tzemach Tzedek" always designates this Rebbe). We present it at the level of principle ; we attribute to the Tzemach Tzedek of Lubavitch, or to any Rebbe, no specific psak, responsum number or minhag that we cannot verify. For the detail of a case — touch, the היכר, the bed, services, illness — the Chabad practice is to turn to a Chabad Rav or a Dayan, and the woman to a moret kalla: these הרחקות are learned, not deduced alone.

Lema'asse (Daat HaRav). According to the Chabad tradition, in these matters one follows the Tzemach Tzedek of Lubavitch and the pisqei dinim transmitted in Chabad, with the school's stringency in taharat hamishpacha. For applying the הרחקות day to day — touch, the table, the bed, services, illness —, consult your Rav (or a Chabad Rav / Dayan) and a moret kalla: this level presents the principle, it does not decide your situation, and these practical dinim are learned from a person.

Lema'asse (touch). The principle: no direct contact, and not passing an object from hand to hand (nor by throwing). But the concrete daily cases — passing a baby, placing then taking an object, the accepted exceptions — call for precise instruction. Learn these rules from your Rav or a moret kalla ; this level states the principle, it does not cover every case in the home.

Lema'asse (the table and the cup). The principle: no meal at the same table without a היכר (a separating object or each his own cloth), and one does not finish the cup she drank (unless a third party or pouring over). But the concrete choice of היכר and the Rama's nuances are points of practice. Learn them from your Rav or a moret kalla ; one does not improvise these markers.

Lema'asse (the bed). The principle: separate beds ; he does not sit on her dedicated bed (even in her absence), nor on a loose bench on which she is sitting ; they do not sleep together, even clothed, even on separate mattresses or beds if they touch. But the actual arrangement — which beds, what distance, the bench — calls for instruction. Learn it from your Rav or a moret kalla.

Lema'asse (gaze, garments, adornment). The principle: restrain the gaze from her covered parts ; designate garments for the days of נדה (for the shared memory) ; and adornment is permitted, so as not to become repulsive. But the concrete extent of these measures depends on custom and case. Learn them from your Rav or a moret kalla.

Lema'asse (the services). The principle: she does everything for him, except the gestures of חבה — pouring the cup (without a היכר), making the bed in his presence (the sheets), pouring the washing water ; and reciprocally he does not pour her cup. But the detail (the right היכר, what is טורח, the reciprocity) is learned in practice. Learn it from your Rav or a moret kalla.

Lema'asse (the two periods and illness). The principle: the הרחקות apply in נדה and in ליבון (with the Rama's leniency of eating from a single bowl in ליבון, per the custom) ; and illness opens graded leniencies — he is ill (she serves him without the gestures of חבה), she is ill (he does not touch her, except at need and with no one else), the husband a physician (no pulse, except in danger). But the extent of a leniency, and above all cases of danger, are decided case by case. Consult your Rav (or a Chabad Rav / Dayan) — and a physician where there is danger ; one does not decide these leniencies alone.

Note on method. The works cited below extend the principles of siman 195 to today's practice. They are cited as recognized streams of psika, to be confirmed with a Rav or a moret kalla before any application. We cite only real and attested positions ; we invoke no responsum number or minhag we cannot verify — particularly for the Chabad minhagim, given at the level of principle.